Thursday, November 19, 2015

Stop Bullying ! 5 Danger if you're bullying someone!!

Stop Bullying !!! , you are no better than those who bully you . There are so many cases that have occurred due to the impact of activities bully each other . Bullying activities are very much negative impact. Well, below we summarize about 5 Danger if you're bullying someone .

1. The Stress affects  someone
        When someone in the Bully by others continuously, will cause the person to become stressed. In the human brain there is a system that regulates the level of stress a person , namely the limbic system. The limbic system is the part of the brain that works to record everything that happens in a person. Because the bully is done continuously , making the limbic system in order to provide information to the brain produced hormone cortisol or stress hormones. Pity not, if we bully someone when he was supposed to be growing, instead we make more and more stress.

2. Gave rise to hostility
        In Indonesia is very often really bully activities, and seemed to have become a hobby. Dropping someone, belittle, commit acts of violence even though only using words greatly affect your social relationships later. The emergence of hostility is the one that often occur. Especially in today's social media, they are more excited when seeing others bowed, silent, even moody. Be careful, because the bullying activity can lead to hostility and even fights. Unfortunately, the relationship that had been on hold, apart just because there are words that hurt.

3. A person becomes not confident
        We live, through the day should be filled with confidence, because without confidence, we will not move from one place to another. Bully someone who constantly makes him lose confidence, though it bully just words, but in the long term makes a person becomes more shy, and did not want to try anything that could boost his spirits. Loss of confidence is very danger really.

4. Excessive fear and trauma
        Fear and trauma is certain, he's more withdrawn, more terrified. Just watch from a distance more friends were supposed to be playing together, tell stories, laugh, interact with other human beings. Precisely because dampat of Bully has to fear and trauma to people. Fear of crowds, fear of socialization benefits.

5. Possibility of Suicide
        Activity bullying is as it should not be done. Because acceptance someone above said we deliver highly variable. We must be smart when he said, because it could be said that we say it has an effect bully someone. If a person is no longer able to resist the action received, could be desperate to suicide.

4 Indonesian Celebrity Which Ever Experienced Bullying

        Some studies suggest that, someone who is often in contact with his childhood bully the possibility of his adult life will be successful. This is because the mental that have been 'honed' since childhood, so accustomed to the mental and psychological pressure which makes personal tough edges will make a big person or people who are successful.
Agrees to the study, the following four celebrities homeland of his childhood in contact with the bully, but as adults they managed to become the 'big':

1. Afgan

Who would have thought the best solo singer of Indonesia, Afgan Syahreza ever experienced bullying. He was the subject of ridicule during his first school, even his clothes ever be drawn tight by his friend. That is why Afgan did not want to remember back to a dark past. But, despite ever experienced bulllying, Afgan assume that bullying that makes he become personally mature and strong.

2. Tina Toon

Tina Toon is a young celebrity which known big, fat and attractive. This makes friends Tina Toon mocking. Yes, the average mocked her chubby body shape. Originally, Tina Toon will ignore her mockery, but as a teenager he began to realize that her mockery. Tina Toon also taking steps to slimming body. She is diligent exercise and maintain a diet. With hard struggle, she finally succeeded. Her weight was down close to the ideal.

3. Tulus

The same fate, experienced by a singer called "Tulus". Tulus was even given the title of large-bodied animals, ELEPHANT! This is because the shape of Tulus were big and slow that in accordance with the characteristic Elephant.
Initially he was upset with his nickname, but after knowing much about elephants were smart he actually liked the title of the elephants. Well, from this animal, then Tulus was inspired to create a song Elephant.
With this, as if Tulus told for bully, that the elephant was slow and large but elephants have a smart brain. That is why he can be successful up to now.

4. Gani

The sweet girl who had just won the Top Model Asia is often experienced as a bullying victim. He always teased by his friends, even he was called by the name of the disgusting animals, cockroaches! But, apparently mockery was used as a motivation for Gani to move forward leaving the bully. This is evidenced by the success pioneered the modeling of national to Asia. Gani now able to 'brag' herself, because he could proven itself, that he was not a cockroach living in a dirty place, but now it is a rare pearl.

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Wednesday, November 11, 2015

"You Have More Friends Than You Know"

This song is very meaningful for us. Check out the lyrics :)

Mmm... OhhhWe feel,We hear,Your pain,Your fear,But we're here,To say,Who you are,Is okay

And you don't have to go through this on your ownYou're not alone

You have more friends than you knowSome who surround youSome you are destined to meetYou'll have more love in your life

Don't let go, give it time

Take it slowThose who love you the most, may need more time to grow

It's gonna be okay (It's gonna be okay)You have more friends than you know

Be brave,Be strongYou are loved,You belong

Some day soon (Some day soon)You will see (You will see)

You're exactly

Who you're supposed to be

And you don't have to go through this on your own (Ooh!)You're not (You're not!)Alone (You're not alone, no, no)

You have more friends than you knowSome who surround youSome you are destined to meetYou'll have more love in your lifeDon't let go

Give it time (Give it time)Take it slow (Take it slow)Those who love you the most (May need more time to grow)It's gonna be okay (Gonna be okay)You have more friends than you know

Be who you areLearn to forgive

It's not about who you love

But how you live! (But how you live!)

(You have more!) friends than you know (Than you know!)Some who surround you (Yeah!)Some you are destined (to meet)

You'll have more (More!) love in your life

Don't let go, give it time (Give it time)

Take it slow (Take it slow)

Those who love you the most (may need more time to grow)

It's gonna be okay (It's gonna be okay)

You have more friends than you know..It's gonna be okay

Tuesday, November 3, 2015

Support the Kids Involved

All kids involved in bullying—whether they are bullied, bully others, or see bullying—can be affected. It is important to support all kids involved to make sure the bullying doesn’t continue and effects can be minimized.

*Support Kids Who are Bullied 

1.    Listen and focus on the child. Learn what’s been going on and show you want to help. 

2.    Assure the child that bullying is not their fault. 

3.    Know that kids who are bullied may struggle with talking about it. Consider referring them to a school counselor, psychologist, or other mental health service.

4.    Give advice about what to do. This may involve role-playing and thinking through how the child might react if the bullying occurs again.

5.    Work together to resolve the situation and protect the bullied child. The child, parents, and school or organization may all have valuable input. It may help to:
·         Ask the child being bullied what can be done to make him or her feel safe. Remember that changes to routine should be minimized. He or she is not at fault and should not be singled out. For example, consider rearranging classroom or bus seating plans for everyone. If bigger moves are necessary, such as switching classrooms or bus routes, the child who is bullied should not be forced to change.
·         Develop a game plan. Maintain open communication between schools, organizations, and parents. Discuss the steps that are taken and the limitations around what can be done based on policies and laws. Remember, the law does not allow school personnel to discuss discipline, consequences, or services given to other children.

6.    Be persistent. Bullying may not end overnight. Commit to making it stop and consistently support the bullied child.

7.    Avoid these mistakes:
·         Never tell the child to ignore the bullying.
·         Do not blame the child for being bullied. Even if he or she provoked the bullying, no one deserves to be bullied.
·         Do not tell the child to physically fight back against the kid who is bullying. It could get the child hurt, suspended, or expelled.
·         Parents should resist the urge to contact the other parents involved. It may make matters worse. School or other officials can act as mediators between parents. 

8.    Follow-up. Show a commitment to making bullying stop. Because bullying is behavior that repeats or has the potential to be repeated, it takes consistent effort to ensure that it stops.

*Address Bullying Behavior 

            Parents, school staff, and organizations all have a role to play.
1.    Make sure the child knows what the problem behavior is. Young people who bully must learn their behavior is wrong and harms others. 

2.    Show kids that bullying is taken seriously. Calmly tell the child that bullying will not be tolerated. Model respectful behavior when addressing the problem.

3.    Work with the child to understand some of the reasons he or she bullied. For example:
·         Sometimes children bully to fit in. These kids can benefit from participating in positive activities. Involvement in sports and clubs can enable them to take leadership roles and make friends without feeling the need to bully.
·         Other times kids act out because something else—issues at home, abuse, stress—is going on in their lives. They also may have been bullied. These kids may be in need of additional support, such as mental health services.

4.    Use consequences to teach. Consequences that involve learning or building empathy can help prevent future bullying. School staff should remember to follow the guidelines in their student code of conduct and other policies in developing consequences and assigning discipline. For example, the child who bullied can:
·         Lead a class discussion about how to be a good friend.
·         Write a story about the effects of bullying or benefits of teamwork.
·         Role-play a scenario or make a presentation about the importance of respecting others, the negative effects of gossip, or how to cooperate.
·         Do a project about civil rights and bullying.
·         Read a book about bullying.
·         Make posters for the school about cyberbullying and being smart online.

5.    Involve the kid who bullied in making amends or repairing the situation. The goal is to help them see how their actions affect others. For example, the child can:
·         Write a letter apologizing to the student who was bullied.
·         Do a good deed for the person who was bullied or for others in your community.
·         Clean up, repair, or pay for any property they damaged.

6.    Avoid strategies that don’t work or have negative consequences.
·         Zero tolerance or “three strikes, you’re out” strategies don’t work. Suspending or expelling students who bully does not reduce bullying behavior. Students and teachers may be less likely to report and address bullying if suspension or expulsion is the consequence.
·         Conflict resolution and peer mediation don’t work for bullying. Bullying is not a conflict between people of equal power who share equal blame. Facing those who have bullied may further upset kids who have been bullied.
·         Group treatment for students who bully doesn’t work. Group members tend to reinforce bullying behavior in each other.

7.    Follow-up. After the bullying issue is resolved, continue finding ways to help the child who bullied to understand how what they do affects other people. For example, praise acts of kindness or talk about what it means to be a good friend. 

*Support Bystanders Who Witness Bullying

            Even if kids are not bullied or bullying others they can be affected by bullying. Many times, when they see bullying, they may not know what to do to stop it. They may not feel safe stepping in in the moment, but there are many other steps they can take.

Find Out What Happened

Whether you’ve just stopped bullying on the spot or a child has reached out to you for help, follow the steps below to determine the best way to proceed.

1. Get the Facts 
·         Keep all the involved children separate. 
·         Get the story from several sources, both adults and kids.
·         Listen without blaming.
·         Don’t call the act “bullying” while you are trying to understand what happened.
It may be difficult to get the whole story, especially if multiple students are involved or the bullying involves social bullying or cyberbullying. Collect all available information.

2. Determine if it's Bullying 
            There are many behaviors that look like bullying but require different approaches. It is important to determine whether the situation is bullying or something else.
Review the definition of bullyingState law and school policy may have additional guidelines for defining bullying behavior.

To determine if this is bullying or something else, consider the following questions:
·         What is the history between the kids involved? Have there been past conflicts?
·         Is there a power imbalance? Remember that a power imbalance is not limited to physical strength. It is sometimes not easily recognized. If the targeted child feels like there is a power imbalance, there probably is.
·         Has this happened before? Is the child worried it will happen again?
·         Have the kids dated? There are special responses for teen dating violence.
·         Are any of the kids involved with a gang? Gang violence has different interventions.
Remember that it may not matter “who started it.” Some kids who are bullied may be seen as annoying or provoking, but this does not excuse the bullying behavior.

Once you have determined if the situation is bullying, support the kids involved.

Stop Bullying on the Spot

When adults respond quickly and consistently to bullying behavior they send the message that it is not acceptable. Research shows this can stop bullying behavior over time. There are simple steps adults can take to stop bullying on the spot and keep kids safe.

·         Intervene immediately. It is ok to get another adult to help.
·         Separate the kids involved.
·         Make sure everyone is safe.
·         Meet any immediate medical or mental health needs.
·         Stay calm. Reassure the kids involved, including bystanders.
·         Model respectful behavior when you intervene.

Avoid these common mistakes:
·         Don’t ignore it. Don’t think kids can work it out without adult help.
·         Don’t immediately try to sort out the facts.
·         Don’t force other kids to say publicly what they saw.
·         Don’t question the children involved in front of other kids.
·         Don’t talk to the kids involved together, only separately.
·         Don’t make the kids involved apologize or patch up relations on the spot.

Get police help or medical attention immediately if:
·         A weapon is involved.
·         There are threats of serious physical injury.
·         There are threats of hate-motivated violence, such as racism or homophobia.
·         There is serious bodily harm.
·         There is sexual abuse.

·         Anyone is accused of an illegal act, such as robbery or extortion—using force to get money, property, or services.